Jan 03 2009
I guess I am a Rapist and Exploiter
Let me Just say that I think Rape is a Terrible act that No Person Female or Male should have to endure other than OJ Simpson.
I Saw this Post about Rape and How this author who is a Woman defines Rape, The interesting thing is the more I read the more confused I got. She says that by acting chivalrous that a Man is Exploiting a woman. Maybe I read that wrong but either she has not had a Date in a long time or I am missing something or she has been playing Poker on Full Tilt where I seemed to get Raped on a Regular basis.
Here are a few of her points in No Particular order:
- - forcible rape (the most obvious), I.e. literally violating a woman while using threats and violence; (this is rape)
- - sexual coercion: this may involve grabbing, pushing, hold a woman down tightly, forcing any kind of sex on her, though sexual coercion may take different subtler forms, e.g. closer to sexual demand; (this is rape)
- - prostitution: (in the vast majority of cases) when a woman or girl’s body is bought and sold to primarily satisfy men’s sadist sexual desires in a patriarchy; (this is May be rape)
- - sexual payments: when a man buys a woman dinner, clothes, presents, etc and expects sex from her in return; (this is NOT rape see #3)
- - seduction: when a man persuades a woman to have sex with him, often subtly, through being kind, polite, chivalrous, etc; (this is NOT rape)
- - rape of our souls: when we, women, are not allowed to be ourselves because of having to conform to patriarchal feminine gender ‘norms’. Whether we do it to “be liked” or not to be criticized, most of the time, we conform. This culture trains us to conforms and alter our body parts because, in a patriarchy, we are not allowed to Be Ourselves; we are not allowed to be human beings, i.e. we are not allowed to have a full bodily integrity (e.g. we ‘have to’ shave, wear make-up, etc to conform to male-supremacist feminine norms). (this is NOT rape)
Now I agree with the Author that 1 and 2 are rape but 3 isn’t rape and if you take Presents for sex then your a Prostitute call it what you will.
I guess my biggest gripe is with #5 I mean seriously Then I am a Rapist cause this is where i go wrong. I guess my always being a Gentleman (thats how i was raised) was not the right way. Seduction is now exploitation according to the Femanazi who posted this insightful post. Yes I have taken women out and acted nice so I guess by her standards I was exploiting the Women I was with. Never mind the Fact that I usually would pick them up and pay for the Movie and food But I guess that just ties into my Exploitation of the women I was with but I wonder if maybe It was I who was being exploited by paying for dinner and movies without expecting but maybe Hoping for some Sex.
I think that Begging for sex makes you a Cad but not a Rapist.
I think that People are responsible for themselves and that Man and Women are free thinking and can make decisions for themselves so why do People want to shift the responsibility for themselves onto others? Men do not have ESP, Believe it or not we don’t know what is going on in those heads of yours ladies so stop thinking we do.
I being the father of 2 daughters hope that neither of them will subscribe to this women’s Ideas of rape. I want them to be strong independent and capable of making choices without trying to blame men for everything that may or may not work out for them as they grow up and date(shudder) and yes they need to be protected but also allowed to grow and have healthy sexual relationships based on trust and love and maybe lust. Just like we did and our parents before us.
I Don’t know about you all but I want to raise my children in the 21st century not the 19th.
Peace
